My request to keep this particular birthday low-key seemed to have been noted until the other day when Keira announced she would like a three-tier birthday cake.

She’d even drawn her ‘concept’ of what she wanted this cake to look like:

3 tier cake

“Honey, that just isn’t going to happen. No way, no how.”

“Why not?”

“For one thing, it’s fancier than my own wedding cake.”

My mother – who happened to make and decorate my own wedding cake, and has arguably more authority and right to talk on the subject than I do – just happens to be visiting at the moment and spoke up to say that she would make the cake.


“Thank you,” I said. “But keep it to one layer, please.”

You can see how much I’m listened to around here.


In my caption to the Instagram picture I added, ‘In my day, teevee sticks made football ovals boundaries on a cake. Now, it’s a Plants vs Zombies fence. ZEITGEIST.’

Ultimately, Keira was unsure what the cake actually was. Riley was adamant it was some sort of zombie citadel. Oh, did I mention it was marble cake? Made from scratch?

Mums are awesome.


On this spirit of this occasion, let’s look over a conversation Adam and I had the other day.

“Come down the street for a walk with me,” he said.

“Okay, why?”

“Just because…”

We were halfway along when I asked where we were headed.

“I want to go to the jewellery shop.”


“I want to get something for Keira.”

“Um – dude? When was the last time you went to the jewellers for me?”

“Well… uh. That’s not important.”


“Not that long…”



{Us, in the shop}

“What about that?”

I like that.”

“What about this?”

“That’s too old for her.”




Happy eighth birthday, my darling. This morning you jumped into bed with me and said, “Only two more years until I’m ten!”

All in good time. Don’t be too much in a rush.

We love you.


Karen Andrews is the creator of this website, one of the most established and well-respected parenting blogs in the country. She is also an author, award-winning writer, poet, editor and publisher at Miscellaneous Press. Her latest book is Trust the Process: 101 Tips on Writing and Creativity