Comments on: Trapped in Freud’s Oral Stage http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 06:22:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Janet http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6065 Janet Fri, 03 Apr 2009 15:07:56 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6065 I did the same exact thing to my fingers. Bit the nails to the quick, and picked at the cuticles and skin around the fingers. I also sucked my thumb until I was 8, except when I was at school. Eventually I just stopped. But I never needed braces. My brother and sister both had braces and never sucked their thumbs. ' I finally quit biting my fingernails in college when they let me chew gum in class. I pick the skin to this day however. My mother put every foul substance possible on my thumb and my fingers to no avail. I was constantly humiliated by people (not always relatives) yanking my hands away from my mouth. It only made it worse because it served to lower my self-esteem even further. If I have something to do with my hands (cross-stitch, gardening, whatever), I'm OK. But if I'm sitting in a meeting or class or whatever, I'm doomed. I did the same exact thing to my fingers. Bit the nails to the quick, and picked at the cuticles and skin around the fingers. I also sucked my thumb until I was 8, except when I was at school. Eventually I just stopped. But I never needed braces. My brother and sister both had braces and never sucked their thumbs.
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I finally quit biting my fingernails in college when they let me chew gum in class. I pick the skin to this day however.

My mother put every foul substance possible on my thumb and my fingers to no avail. I was constantly humiliated by people (not always relatives) yanking my hands away from my mouth. It only made it worse because it served to lower my self-esteem even further.

If I have something to do with my hands (cross-stitch, gardening, whatever), I’m OK. But if I’m sitting in a meeting or class or whatever, I’m doomed.

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]]> By: Jayne http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6069 Jayne Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:38:16 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6069 My eldest used to do what you do to your fingernails (major stress) but she deliberately broke the habit and has beautiful nails now. My eldest used to do what you do to your fingernails (major stress) but she deliberately broke the habit and has beautiful nails now.

]]> By: Mistress B http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6068 Mistress B Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:46:15 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6068 Both my hubby and son do what you do with the fingernails, and the eldest daughter is going to need braces as a result of thumb sucking. I dunno that it's an oral stage, seems to be just a very human thing to do. *shrugs* Both my hubby and son do what you do with the fingernails, and the eldest daughter is going to need braces as a result of thumb sucking.

I dunno that it’s an oral stage, seems to be just a very human thing to do. *shrugs*

]]> By: Marita http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6064 Marita Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:13:30 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6064 I sucked my thumb and ended up with braces. Remember my parents painting my thumb with foul tasting stuff until I stopped. Heidi doesn't just chew her nails she chews her whole finger. Even if she has broken the skin with her teeth and it is bleeding she continues to chew. The OT gave her a special tube to chew on but also suggested giving Heidi chewy foods such as licorice and jerky to chew on. Has made a big difference. Apparently chewing and sucking really helps calm the brain and order your thoughts which is why people often do it. There are special pen toppers you can get to chew on, save you eating your pen / pencil. I sucked my thumb and ended up with braces. Remember my parents painting my thumb with foul tasting stuff until I stopped.

Heidi doesn’t just chew her nails she chews her whole finger. Even if she has broken the skin with her teeth and it is bleeding she continues to chew. The OT gave her a special tube to chew on but also suggested giving Heidi chewy foods such as licorice and jerky to chew on. Has made a big difference.

Apparently chewing and sucking really helps calm the brain and order your thoughts which is why people often do it. There are special pen toppers you can get to chew on, save you eating your pen / pencil.

]]> By: Stitch Sista http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6067 Stitch Sista Thu, 02 Apr 2009 21:34:45 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6067 Oh gosh my wee 5 yo son does this. Not so much the fingernails but all his fingertips. As his mama it's awful because I feel a cloud of guilt that he is already 'anxious' enough to do this at such a tender age. I realise though I should recognise it for what it is, another crutch or coping mechanism that I think most of us adopt in some form or another. And even when he's not anxious - well - it's habit now. Oh gosh my wee 5 yo son does this. Not so much the fingernails but all his fingertips.

As his mama it’s awful because I feel a cloud of guilt that he is already ‘anxious’ enough to do this at such a tender age.

I realise though I should recognise it for what it is, another crutch or coping mechanism that I think most of us adopt in some form or another. And even when he’s not anxious – well – it’s habit now.

]]> By: bill http://miscmum.com/2009/04/03/trapped-in-freuds-oral-stage/#comment-6066 bill Thu, 02 Apr 2009 18:23:51 +0000 http://www.miscmum.com/?p=1228#comment-6066 Elegant nails are for social butterflies. Ravaged nails are for real people. Elegant nails are for social butterflies. Ravaged nails are for real people.

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